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Tired and hormonal and overthinking things... like the difference between forgiveness and letting go of anger. I don't think forgiveness is required, I've said that before. And the argument for forgiveness is often "well it's freeing" or "you can't move on or be happy without forgiving them" etc etc.... and I call bullshit. COMPLETE bullshit. I have moved on and let go of a lot of anger about stuff and people who I will never forgive. Their actions aren't magically erased or made okay just because I'm not angry about them anymore. If that person actually attempted to make up for those actions or something that's one thing, but the people I don't forgive specifically don't feel apologetic or anything. And that's up to them. I don't waste a ton of energy or thoughts on these people, I don't spend a ton of time dwelling or pouting over them, I'm not still angry or hung up on it or anything, I've simply not forgiven them... but I HAVE let go of the anger. I know most think it's impossible to do both and if it's impossible for THEM that's fine, forgive away. But it's doable for me, and I do not "owe" forgiveness to anyone, and I don't NEED to forgive just so I can "move on" or be happy or something.

This isn't about any one person right now, or one situation. There's a very short list, yes, but MOST likely no one reading this is relevant to this.

I'm also full of "I don't have to be the one DIRECTLY affected by some one's bullshit to distrust and dislike that person, and I'm not required to give them a chance just because they've only screwed over other people and not me" thoughts but that's a whole other rambling thing for another time.