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[shinga]

I am a weirdo according to some because I think “soulmates” as an idea can be VERY real. But I don’t think there’s “one soulmate” for people. I think there are SEVERAL. Dozens, possibly hundreds we’ll never meet. And I also think soulmates don’t have to be romantic at all. That friend you instantly connect with on just about every important level can be just as much of a soulmate (and as important) as some on you also connect romantically and sexually with. It’s not required… frequently it’s weird to feel that way about a soulmate. Romantic soulmates are totally a thing, but not the ONLY thing, and there’s more than one romantic soulmate too (and varying kids… I might connect with one person for life-long long, some only with a month-long passionate fling that means the world to both of us). Which I love. Think of all the possible forms of love with so SO many people on this planet. You might meet only one in your lifetime, you might meet a hundred… you might be in a place in your life to explore it, or not, and it’s perfectly okay… but having so many people to connect gives you so many chances.

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in before my atheist friends mock and belittle me for this ;)

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[greyboy]

I will neither mock nor belittle. There's not a word of this I'd disagree with, unless you're inferring that there's some kind of supernatural agency at work here. But I'm behind the notion of soul mates; maybe not as a tangible, quantifiable thing, but on an emotional, resonant level, definitely. And like you, I think a person could have as many soul mates as they have that kind of resonant connection with. Kat is my wife, the great love of my life, and I'm hers from this day until the day I stop breathing in and out, but I don't necessarily think the person you're in love with and the person you consider a soul mate are one and the same, although they certainly can be. Michael and I are soul mates. From the first day we met, there was a resonance, and it still holds. Tommy and I were soul mates, balls to bones, but I don't know if we are so much anymore.

[shinga]

In this context there's absolutely no supernatural component whatsover, this is just about human beings. And I think a soulmate can definitely be temporary, in a sense... human beings grow and change constantly, who you have a deep connection with at one point will be as distant as a stranger later on. Makes complete sense. (same in even romantic relationships, which is why a long-term thing is hard work... making sure you keep growing in the same direction so that you never become strangers to each other. just ASSUMING you'll always have that exact connection just can't work)

[damia]

I believe in soulmates. I prefer to call them soulfriends because then you get more than one. ;)

But yeah, there are people you meet that change your life. That blow your mind because they are so inspiring, kindred or synced with you. They may last a life time or they may last a weekend.

Billy is a long time friend of mine. We dated back in high school. It was very hard breaking up with him because I didn't have a good reason. I was young. I knew he wasn't the person I was going to marry even though there wasn't anything wrong with him. I knew it would make us both miserable. No matter how much we cared about each other we didn't meet each other's romantic needs.
To this day he holds a place in my heart somewhere between platonic lover and little brother. (which sounds odd, I know)

And there's others as well. So yeah, I totally get where your coming from and agree.

[jdack]

Don't have to believe in a 'soul' to believe in the concept of soulmates. Just a word after all.

I generally think of it as people who truly click. My current best friend has been my best friend since 1994 or so. Bromates if you will, or something silly like that.

[thedeadcat]

Bromance is totes awesome. :)

[flemco]

I've done the math before.

No, I don't believe in "THAT ONE SOUL MATE." That shit is preposterous. Right, so on this planet, out of 7 billion people, you just managed to be living virtually next door to the ONE person on earth who completes your life?

WHAT ARE THE ODDS? Why wasn't your soul mate, say, born in the Kalahari Desert? Or Siberia? Or Argentina?

I do believe that you can find multiple, compatible people who complete you. It's not THAT rare. If you find a friend bemoaning his breakup, saying "SHE WAS ONE IN A MILLION," you would do well to point out that such a claim means there are 3.2 more of her just here, in Dallas.

Soul mates? Yes. But not exclusively. There are many, many people on this earth we are each and all compatible with.

[sabrarosa]

I agree completely. Soulmates aren't only the people we fall in love with romantically but the friends who also really get us and love us.