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I think one thing I'm looking forward to about weight loss is seeing the "friends" (primarily male) that turned cold when I got fat suddenly start acting friendly to me once I'm "hot" again. I look forward to knowing for certain who those fuckers are and laughing in their faces.

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disgruntledgirl

They will be excellent test dummies on standing up for yourself - and not promptly beating yourself up about it afterwards.
One-Step, Two-step..

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greyboy

You know, for years I told myself that if/when I ever lost weight I was going to be like some phoenix of righteous indignation and oh, won't those girls who weren't attracted to me before be sorry when they see the real me. I couldn't wait to throw it all back in their faces.

Then as I got older, and a bit wiser, I told myself that wasn't going to happen; that the women who weren't attracted to me weren't going to be, no matter what, and the ones who would be would've been anyway.

Now that I've actually succeeded in losing all this weight, it's just now dawning on me that that was an incorrect assumption. Much to my surprise, I have started to get the attention of some of my female friends, friends I've known for years, who never expressed any kind of attraction or interest before. I'm not saying they all have, there are some who simply ain't buying what I'm selling (unless I'm quite mistaken, you can be counted among those), and that's perfectly okay, but enough have done it to where I've begun to realize that's not just coincidence. Some say it's because I'm more confident. Bullshit. I haven't had confidence issues since I was in my late 20's.

But I've found that I like the attention, whether it's because "Oh, I was always attracted to you" or "I'm seeing the 'real' you now" or whatever excuse or lack of excuse they may come up with. Don't care. Don't give a shit. Life is too short, and I'm damn lucky to be given this, and most importantly, I have this amazing marriage that I'm in that allows me to accept that kind of attention.

I guess what I'm saying is, do what you think is right, but if I were to offer any advice, I would say don't be too quick to just reflexively reject that attention out-of-hand. There may be other legit reasons why those guys "turned cold." But, you know, if they're not worthy of your attention now, then they probably never were in the first place, so there's that. Do whatcha gotta do.

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shinga

Eh, the ones I'm thinking of pretty literally haven't even talked to me since I got fat. I've tried and since given up. I do not want their attention, and knowing in retrospect that they only acted like a friend because I was young and thin is pretty angering. And I've lost friends in that same timeline for other reasons, shit happens and I get that. Not EVERYONE left just because of my weight, that's just silly. It's a very small handful of people that I think were the shallow nitwits... and I'll happily reject their "friendship" the second they offer it again if I know they're only doing it because I fit within their weight requirements again. So yeah, again, I know sometimes people drift apart and that happens. I'm not talking about them, honestly. The ones I'm talking about I had no interest in even when they WERE being "friends".