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[shinga]

I like things like this. They remind me of the things I've gotten away from, they help others see what they're stuck in or have gotten away from (validation is awesome), and best of all... it helps me keep an eye on my OWN behavior.

It's not that I think I'm abusive by any means but it's easy enough to fall into patterns of behavior where your partner might end up feeling one or two or all of these and suddenly you've got an unhealthy situation going on without even realizing it. For example, the first one - I'm a sensitive goddamn person and I know it, and I know I've had partners hesitate to bring up important issues because they worry I'll get upset (which also covers number four). I can work on that. The second one, I can try harder to validate and support my partner's issues. The third, make sure my partner knows I trust them and if my own insecurities or jealousy stuff comes up to communicate that I know they're MY issues and not something THEY are doing. Stuff like that.

It helps.

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DOH! I did not see this in your blog

[disgruntledgirl]

Now my blog looks like we were meming.

Is that word?

Is now...